Why Can't I?

YOU CAN’T. These two words have been the basis of therapy and fear for centuries, I’m convinced.  Whether you’re Gen X, Y, Millennial, Boomer or from Mars, you probably hate these words too.

It leaves me asking the question; “Well why not?”

Let me tell you about my GenY best friend. She is exactly what I am not. Quiet, reserved, fabulous at reading people, a keen eye for design… and completely lacking any semblance of self confidence. 5 Minutes with her mother, and you’ll know why.

My BFF: “I’d love to go to Europe”

BFF’s Mom “Oh no Jay, you can’t. It’s dangerous and you have a bad sense of direction. You’ll get lost.’

Recently, her mother told her she can only go to Europe if it’s with me, since I know what I’m doing. I will never openly admit to the woman that I spend about 75% of my time lost, asking for directions, or running like hell for transportation.

It’s hectic times where adventure happens. This isn't a bad thing. 

While her mother is trying to protect her, she's doing the opposite. We all know people learn through experience and failure. "You Can't" shuts a person off. Instantly.

Let’s put this in a work situation. 

I currently work for an American Retailer, who has made no plans other then a generic e-mail to comply with AODA. I decided to speak with my boss about responding. I want to be in HR, and actually know companies who could help us do the training. I could set it up, help it run, and  boost my experience as well. 

Her Response: "Sure you can, but be prepared for them not to respond".

I sent the e-mail.

5 weeks later, there is no response.

But I tried, and she supported me.

That, in my sort-of humble, 20something GenY opinion, is the key to great leadership.

She dared to say “why not”, which is a question we should be asking ourselves and everyone else every day, and allowing people to decide if the consequences are worth the potential outcome. Of course, not every idea will run. But, it instantly makes a person consider the larger picture, and then says "go for it. I'll support you." That can't be a bad thing.

The power is in the employees hands, guided by an leader. This is how great companies run. Try new things, be entrepreneurial, be brave. There will be no more need for meetings and webinars on “how to connect with the younger generations”.... or anyone, really. Just letting someone try something is enough.